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FDP Forum / Performer's Corner / Singer wants to start a band....odd start?

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San Clemente, CA

Happy Sunsets, tahitijack
Jun 18th, 2019 11:56 AM   Edit   Profile  

I was contacted by a singer (female...yes I know) that wants to start a band. She has a bass player lined up. I suggest she email me a set list. I get a text message from her with a spotify link. Link is to Janis Joplin play list...mostly blues artists and songs. I email back, so you want to start a blues band? She emails youtube links to Elton John/Your Song, A Star Is Born/Shallow, Bonnie Raitt/Thing Called Love, Crazy/Patsy Cline. I'm use to getting a set list and when I'm lucky the songs have a note as to the key. I email back thanks but please send a set list. Am I being unreasonable or is sending links to song more the way bands start these days. I don't want to come off as a jerk but my gut tells me to pass on this opportunity. Your thoughts.

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Manchester, TN

Ask me how I know!?
Jun 18th, 2019 12:37 PM   Edit   Profile  

Do you have her phone number? Maybe give her a call....let her know your expectations. It could just be a lack of experience on her part.

I've been in a pretty good band for over a year and just got my first set list yesterday. I would have created one myself, if I could have remembered all the songs we've been practicing. And maybe if I wasn't too lazy to write them down as we practiced....

Anyway, I also prefer a list showing the key that the song is in, and something that I can edit myself with notes, if necessary. That comes from experience though.

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Jun 18th, 2019 02:45 PM   Edit   Profile  

Anyone that makes that poor of an impression right out of the box, well...

Maybe a phone call to eliminate the poor communication as a texting/email thing, but sheesh, I hate that kind of ambiguity.

You can always turn it around on her and send her YouTube links to off the wall stuff, like Monty Python "How to recognize different types of trees". "And now, number one...the Larch".

(This message was last edited by littleuch at 04:52 PM, Jun 18th, 2019)

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Planet Peegoo

Rhythm & Lewd Guitarist
Jun 19th, 2019 03:28 AM   Edit   Profile  


She may be a decent singer, but she is clueless about how musicians communicate. Perhaps send her a sample set list.

Mick Reid
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American-made in Oz!!
Jun 19th, 2019 07:10 AM   Edit   Profile  

I can't believe the whole didn't *start* with the phone conversation.

I like to actually speak to people before anything else happens.
One, you can get a sense of their personality.
Two, you can immediately find out if there's any common ground musically.

I'd try and arrange the next contact as a phone call. If she can't be bothered doing that, forget about it.


LA-la-land, CA

Insert clever comment here
Jun 20th, 2019 06:38 PM   Edit   Profile  

If she is a good singer and has a good bass player, then man, that's a really good start! Maybe she's never formed her own band before, and doesn't know how to go about it. Maybe you're more experienced. Sounds like that's what they need. Maybe offer suggestions. If they don't want them or use them, THEN be very wary.

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