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FDP Forum / Performer's Corner / Band mates

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juneau ak.

If you must smoke, please smoke salmon!
Apr 22nd, 2019 12:59 PM   Edit   Profile  

Are they good friends or a necessary evil? I've come to the belief I'm in a band with one of each, the drummer is becoming more and more of a PITA on a few different levels now other than just at practice.

The bass player is a straight up good person and musician we often do stuff together on a social level and have become good friends after a few years of playing music. We are all committed to this band and I'm trying my best to let things slide that rub me the wrong way... I'll say it, sometimes I just want to go and bust that Keef Telecaster move!!

Ornery drummers
Narcissistic singers
Clueless harmonica Stars
No shortage of of pitfalls here in the world of garage bands!

(This message was last edited by scott-s at 02:59 PM, Apr 22nd, 2019)

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Suburban MD.

You DESERVE an Ibanez Iceman!
Apr 22nd, 2019 02:07 PM   Edit   Profile  

All I can picture is Tom Hanks in "A League of Their Own".

"I want you to work on your shuffle beat." or "speeding up." or "Missing that entrance..."

I don't wanna be a complainer, but my thing has always been mental errors rather then physical ones. We're playing the best we can, but repeated mental goof ups drive me bananas.
If you can't that really hard solo or fill, back it down to 75%. A bar crowd isn't gonna notice.

And I'm always willing to listen if I get something wrong. Especially if we're just starting work on a song. "Verse, then chorus, then bridge then solo, then end; or verse chorus bridge chorus solo end?? Let's play it back one more time!"

Tom Hanks

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St. Louis

"Thumbpicks don't slide into soundholes"
Apr 22nd, 2019 07:20 PM   Edit   Profile  

When I look back at the last 4-5 decades I realize that although I enjoyed moments with everyone I've ever played with band mates are just like everyone else.
Some drive you nuts some are a joy. Then tomorrow they can switch up with each other.
If I sit and think about shortcomings and things that drive me nuts with playing with others after it's just no fun I try to move on. Finish gigs as needed but look for the door.

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Planet Peegoo

Rhythm & Lewd Guitarist
Apr 22nd, 2019 07:59 PM   Edit   Profile  

We’ve all been there. It’s simple math. Nutty people + nutty band = nutty gigs.

The last band I gigged in (it included FDPers Highway Star and VA Steve) was the finest group of musicians and friends anyone would be proud to be a part of. I consider myself lucky.

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American Patriot

About as ordinary as you can get.
Apr 23rd, 2019 08:23 AM   Edit   Profile  

We have 8 in our band and all are over 60.
We get along pretty well but they won't listen to me about the sound set up. We set up in the craziest arrangement I have ever seen. Drummer is about totally deaf and bass player is right behind him. They won't set up close to each other so the drummer can hear the bass. It drives me crazy. Actually, only 2 of us know anything about setting up our PA.
I'd say we don't have a PITA.

Juice Nichols
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Panama City, FL

I'm just a dude, playing a dude...
Apr 23rd, 2019 08:41 AM   Edit   Profile  

I've played with all personality types it seems. I can put up with a good amount of quirkiness as it kind of comes with the territory of being a musician, but if they become a PIA I'm done. I won't play with a musician that insists on being an A-hole, won't show up prepared or are just argumentative about everything.

Rick Knight
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St Peters, MO USA

Busy doing something close to nothing
Apr 23rd, 2019 09:13 AM   Edit   Profile  

Someone said that being in a band is like being in a plural marriage, which seems about right to me. Trying to get along with that many people can be a challenge. Some band mates were just coworkers, some became friends, and one stopped being a friend for a while. There have been a couple of people who I liked better outside the band than in it.

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Apr 25th, 2019 02:48 PM   Edit   Profile  

You need to be humble and lower your expectations about people, lest some band member think you're the jerk.

Arrogant people are never good band mates.


LA-la-land, CA

Insert clever comment here
Apr 26th, 2019 11:07 AM   Edit   Profile  

Playing music should be fun. Life is too short to play with a drummer who's a PITA.

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North Florida

A Friend of Bill W.
Apr 26th, 2019 01:08 PM   Edit   Profile  

Friends first, occasionally once a group is formed and some body moves or has to take a break we’ve brought others in to cover our scheduled gigs.

I can remember a few wackos but it’s been rare. I’ve seen friends get a little anxious in the studio and get a bit weird.



Say what one more time!
May 14th, 2019 12:01 PM   Edit   Profile  

This band I have been in for 20 plus years now is like a family. We do annual parties at Christmas and have a Summer party and just whenever we feel like we need to. Wives and kids are included. I feel pretty lucky to be in this band.

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