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FDP Forum / Performer's Corner / Dear Abby 2/18/2019.... unbelievable!

tahitijack
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Happy Sunsets, tahitijack
Feb 18th, 2019 09:09 AM   Edit   Profile  

I can't link today's Dear Abby column, maybe someone with better skills can.

The letter to Abby sounds like it's was written by one of us... with band trouble. Or maybe a famous band.

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Butterscotch Blues
Feb 18th, 2019 10:10 AM   Edit   Profile  

This one I assume?

“Lead Singer's Showmanship Is Panned by Bandmates

Dear ABBY: I recently started a band with some close friends. At the beginning, everything was going great because we all have similar tastes in music. However, recently the lead singer has gotten more and more attention-seeking.

It started out small where he would make jokes on stage and try and get a laugh out of people. But now he's getting really outlandish, wearing crazy outfits and overall just acting ridiculous. How can I help him get back to just caring about the music and leaving the antics behind? -- EAST COAST MUSICIAN

DEAR MUSICIAN: You have my sympathy. Tom Hanks wrote and directed a movie about this subject in 1996. It is called "That Thing You Do!" If you can locate it, I am sure you will find it interesting.

As destructive as the hardships of being constantly on the road have been for performers in the music and entertainment business, EGO can be equally so. Your bandmate may be trying his best to upstage the rest of you or may think a gimmick could excite your audience. Try talking to him about it, but accept that you may have to replace him. If that's the case, be sure the person you hire has the same vision for the band that you do, so this won't happen again.”

(This message was last edited by Ryder at 12:11 PM, Feb 18th, 2019)

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Feb 18th, 2019 12:52 PM   Edit   Profile  

I am convinced the majority of Dear Abby columns are fake--written by the person that writes the column.

And I'll bet the process is stupid simple since the advent of the Intornetz because it's a fertile valley filled with persons and their problems.

She probably compiled that story based on stuff she read right here.

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Feb 18th, 2019 04:32 PM   Edit   Profile  

I guess this means I shouldn't be trying to up stage my band mates by wearing only my rabbit fur jock strap and a flaming orange Mohawk hair stye, now that I've hit 60 I guess I should be thinking about givingall that up in a year or two!

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Feb 18th, 2019 05:09 PM   Edit   Profile  

I won’t be wearing sweats and a wife beater to play in church anymore either. Whadda they want anyway?

(This message was last edited by Ryder at 07:10 PM, Feb 18th, 2019)

tahitijack
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Happy Sunsets, tahitijack
Feb 18th, 2019 05:18 PM   Edit   Profile  

Thanks Ryder.... that's it!

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Feb 18th, 2019 07:54 PM   Edit   Profile  

He sounds like a normal frontman. What’s the problem?

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Feb 19th, 2019 05:15 AM   Edit   Profile  

You can always tell who

the singer is.

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pwn me like it's 1999
Feb 19th, 2019 05:25 AM   Edit   Profile  

"...be sure the person you hire has the same vision for the band that you do, so this won't happen again.”

Clearly "Abby" never played in a band.

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Feb 19th, 2019 05:38 AM   Edit   Profile  

I thought the story was funny, for some reason I read this column every day and always have. Do not recall there ever being one like it.

Dear STP Drummer, please let Scott do what he does without restriction because he really is "all" that. Your sound will be remembered forever.

or..

Dear Alex, this guy will eventually quite or get fired and Sammy Hagar will join for a few albums, then things will really get weird and the original center of attention will return.

It's all good! Remember that:)

tahitijack
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Happy Sunsets, tahitijack
Feb 19th, 2019 09:43 PM   Edit   Profile  

I thought David Lee might be that guy.... but the letter would have to have spent a couple of decades waiting for Abby to choose it.

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Feb 20th, 2019 03:07 PM   Edit   Profile  

On the other hand a good front man just adds a heck of a lot to a band and is an asset especially when the crowd gets behind what he/she is doing, pulling off difficult songs, having a sense of stage humor, and having a little sense of style to me are the basic things needed to put someone out front.

tahitijack
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Happy Sunsets, tahitijack
Feb 21st, 2019 12:06 PM   Edit   Profile  

Interesting side point. There is a local CL add looking for someone to coach/teach how to become a frontman.

I'm not certain it can be taught. You ether have IT or you don't.

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Feb 21st, 2019 02:00 PM   Edit   Profile  

Instead of "East Coast", that could have been signed, "Phil, Mike & Tony - U.K"

TTYD was less a "lead singer going bananas", and more of a band smushed and then pulled apart by instant success. They still wore those matching suits to the end: "You look good in black, have I told you that?"

I was in a band with a good singer/rhythm guitarist who was not the best frontman, and then 2 bands with 2 different medium-ly OK singers who were fun to watch. The latter bands were more fun!

I'm pretty sure I could be a good frontman if I could throw off the yolk of playing bass. I just need a cape! :)

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Feb 21st, 2019 02:06 PM   Edit   Profile  

Back in collage I had one of the band guys tell me my amplifier had more of a stage presence than I did.

Jeez, I’m a bass player, I’m busy working.

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