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FDP Forum / Moe's Tavern (_8^(I) / Advice on friend who may be alcoholic

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Sep 25th, 2017 10:46 AM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

All the advice above is good. I went through trying to help a good friend and band mate. He wouldn't listen. He got pulled over a block from home going to get some fast food and got a DUI. He woke up and quit. It had to be his idea, his failure his rock bottom. He's been sober for 20 years now.

I had a girlfriend who when I met her seemed quite normal, a social drinker like myself. She would occasionally binge a bit. Things got serious and she moved in to my home with her two kids. Over the next year she could no longer hide her drinking then gave up even trying. She'd be in the garage when I'd come home from work with a vodka/tonic smoking cigs. If it was beyond her third she'd be mean as a rattle snake and any problem she had in her life was somehow my fault.

One night she was scolding her 7-8 year old daughter and told the kid to go to her room. The little girl sat on the floor and would not comply. The GF walked over to her daughter, grabbed her by the hair to pick her up and swatted her butt repeatedly. It was at this moment I knew I was done. It was over.

I remember soon after one Sunday morning where we went to the mall to do some shopping and she was already on her way to S-faced. She started in on me in the car. She was expanding her bag of antics to violence with me. I ended up calling her a drunken "B" and leaving her in the mall parking lot.

She went to an AA meeting the next day, came home and said she was an alcoholic. For the next two weeks while she attended meetings all was well, perfect clarity on her part. It was like it was when we first began our relationship. It only lasted two weeks however, she decided at that point she no longer had a problem and went back to her drinking ways.

I did get her out of the house but actually paid her to leave. My 30/60/90 plan the amount of money decreased each month she remained in the house. Gone in 60 days. Then the drunk dials started. Eventually she lost interest for good. It was total hell but was finally over.

Congrats to all here how have gotten their lives back. I know how hard it is and how it can affect those around you. Again well done.

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