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RKSTRAT
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Sep 7th, 2017 10:06 AM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

When I was a kid, my father bought me a baseball.
It was a prized possession and seemed expensive at the time.
I took it to baseball practice. It rolled into the bushes and a
dog ran after it. The dog then quickly chewed the cover off of it. I wasn't bought a replacement and I remember it to this day.
It wasn't my fault.....but no replacement was offered.

Sound like you did the right thing.

mfitz804
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Godzilla the Thread Killa
Sep 7th, 2017 10:17 AM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

Exactly, we weren't talking about a Cadillac here, it's a couple bucks. Should she have been more careful? Yes. Is airline travel overwhelming to some adults who don't do it all the time? Yes.

I'll give a ten year old a pass.

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Sep 7th, 2017 11:17 AM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

While I don't thoroughly disagree with you tough love advocates... when it comes to my daughter (14 now) I'm a bit of a softie too. Good for you, mfitz!

Goodwill and Salvation Army stores sell used cds/dvds for, like, $1-2. I was going to suggest it would be kind of sweet to replace a few of the titles for the kid, esp since they were prized.

jhawkr
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It's all gravy from here on...
Sep 7th, 2017 11:58 AM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

Bargain bin @ Wal-Mart.

mfitz804
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Godzilla the Thread Killa
Sep 7th, 2017 12:19 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

On eBay, several were below $4 (shipped), with only the two Disney ones that were fairly recent being more ($9ish).

Obviously, it wasn't about the money.

Also, to the person who suggested Netflix as a replacement, I checked and zero of these movies are available on Netflix. Plus we have that already. But she will still use a portable DVD on car trips or other places without WiFi, or sometimes even in the house.

littleuch
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Sep 7th, 2017 12:36 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

She could have plead her case, brought in a team of psychologists, radiologists and other experts explaining why her propensity for misplacing/losing things isn't her fault. All billable to you of course.

Good for you. Just make sure you coach her not to stick her tongue out at mom when she unwraps the replacement DVDs.



mfitz804
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Godzilla the Thread Killa
Sep 7th, 2017 12:41 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

"Good for you. Just make sure you coach her not to stick her tongue out at mom when she unwraps the replacement DVDs. "

As she never asked/expected them to be replaced, she doesn't know our respective positions. We never told her she had to replace them herself, she just assumed it.

They will be given as what "we" decided to do. So no problem :)

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larryguitar
Sep 7th, 2017 12:49 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

They still do DVD's?

Leftee
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Sep 7th, 2017 12:49 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

:-)

mfitz804
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Godzilla the Thread Killa
Sep 7th, 2017 12:52 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

They do. Thankfully, they're cheaper than they used to be!!

jay1vinton

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Perfect is the enemy of good enough
Sep 7th, 2017 01:46 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

While the softer side of me says help the kid out,the other side says that the world is not always roses and unicorns...It's a lesson they should learn now.

Give them an option of replacement with work or chores to make them whole. They won't forget that nowadays...

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Sep 7th, 2017 03:01 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

I'm disappointed in you, Counselor. You must be playing playing golf with all those lenient judges we've been reading about, and some of that has rubbed off onya.

I'm kidding, of course!

The decision you made is the right decision for you.

mfitz804
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Godzilla the Thread Killa
Sep 22nd, 2017 07:30 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

Postscript:

I made the presentation of the full set of DVDs today. She was shocked, and she cried a little. Thanked us like 50 times. After dinner, she took her dishes straight to the sink (she doesn’t always, we give her a pass when there is a high likelihood of crumb dropping because she is an expert at that), and she starts washing them. Not rinsing them off, full on washing them with the scrubby sponge and soap and all.

My wife told her she just asked her to put them in the sink and she said “you guys bought me my movies, I’m washing them myself”. First dishes she’s washed in her life. My wife almost told her to stop, fearful that she wouldn’t do it right. I quietly whispered to her not to say anything, let the kid do what she’s doing and if they need to be re-washed when she’s not looking, so be it. They didn’t need to be, incidentally.

So, maybe, just maybe, somehow, she learned a lesson about taking care of her own stuff after all.

Probably not, but she’s happy, I’m awesome, and DVD equilibrium has been restored in the mfitz804 house.

HeavyDuty
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Sep 22nd, 2017 08:19 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

I love a happy ending!

Ramblin Rhodes

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Sep 22nd, 2017 08:22 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

I think you did right. She learned (2) very important lessons. (one of them maybe better than the other) but none the less...
(1) Her Dad is 'there for her' and will cover for her mistakes if they are important enough to her (and him)
(2) Mistakes have consequences for which someone must accept responsibility.
Hopefully this will be a 'life learning experience'

mfitz804
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Godzilla the Thread Killa
Sep 22nd, 2017 08:48 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

Her total acceptance of responsibility is why I did what I did. It may make zero sense, but because she didn’t ask me to help, I wanted to.

Chris Greene
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Sep 22nd, 2017 09:55 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

I never weighed in on this but I agree with what you decided. Looks like it was a smart decision as well.

jhawkr
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It's all gravy from here on...
Sep 23rd, 2017 04:20 AM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

The lesson you conveyed was love and caring and compassion which is not a bad lesson. It seemed she already was resigned to the responsibility lesson.

reverendrob
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our time in hell
Sep 23rd, 2017 05:13 AM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

Judge Wapner reports you've been sworn at and he's read the complaint and wants breakfast.

mfitz804
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Godzilla the Thread Killa
Sep 23rd, 2017 04:08 PM   Edit   Profile   Print Topic   Search Topic

“I never weighed in on this but I agree with what you decided. Looks like it was a smart decision as well.”

Thanks man, I appreciate hearing from you on this one.

It’s the day after, and we’ve been called “the best parents ever” twice today. And not just because she wants something!

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