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FDP Forum / Performer's Corner / Turned down a good paying gig.


Willoughby, OH , USA

I'm arrogant and a moron
May 8th, 2017 11:30 AM   Edit   Profile  

I played a few gigs with someone a few years ago, who is of marginal ability. A very inconsistent performer, Okay voice, low musical ability, but he always seems to book good, easy gigs: mostly oldies, that I can play in my sleep.
Usually has a line up of decent players behind him so most gigs were fun. Split amicably when another opportunity came along. He still calls me to sub.
Got a call from him to do a gig in four weeks. Pay is pretty good. But, it will be he and I and two girl(? mature) singers. I think this would be, mentally, one of the longest and worst gigs of my life so I told him I wasn't available.
I know: Play as often as you can and with whoever you can but I think this would have been pure torture. Did I do right?

Juice Nichols
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Panama City, FL

I'm just a dude, playing a dude...
May 8th, 2017 11:48 AM   Edit   Profile  

"Did I do right?"

That depends on what those 2 girl singers look like. ;p


Willoughby, OH , USA

I'm arrogant and a moron
May 8th, 2017 03:02 PM   Edit   Profile  

Couple of mature "girls." I guess if you like that sort of thing. Then again, I'm might mature myself.

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So. Cal. USA

May 8th, 2017 03:05 PM   Edit   Profile  

If it didn't sound like fun you did right. My band experience tells me I'd rather not have females in my band but for a fill gig in it's fine.

(This message was last edited by Hammond101 at 05:18 PM, May 8th, 2017)

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San Clemente, CA

Happy Sunsets, tahitijack
May 8th, 2017 04:30 PM   Edit   Profile  

If your heart is not in the gig, it will be obvious to the audience. You made the right choice, but you could have said why to your friend so he doesn't call you with a similar gig in the future. Be friendly when you do, don't burn a bridge unnecessarily.


Willoughby, OH , USA

I'm arrogant and a moron
May 8th, 2017 07:45 PM   Edit   Profile  

Had it been with couple of other guys, i.e. bass, drums, etc. I would do it.


LA-la-land, CA

Insert clever comment here
May 9th, 2017 12:35 PM   Edit   Profile  

Ugh, you made the right choice. Life's too short.


Willoughby, OH , USA

I'm arrogant and a moron
May 10th, 2017 07:05 AM   Edit   Profile  

I have no problem with females. I DO have a problem with singers, who don't play, have no idea what keys they sing in, don't know what a chord is or an accidental, i.e. the majority of female singers.
Non-instrumentalists have no clue what the rest of us face in terms of making music.

Black Gibson

Idaho, USA

Acoustics Rock! Well, sort of...
May 10th, 2017 08:03 AM   Edit   Profile  

My vast experience tells me letting a woman in your band will be good for someone... but that someone won't be you.

carry on


Philly, B-3 Capital

don't dream it be it
May 10th, 2017 10:13 AM   Edit   Profile  

yeah, singers crack me up.
we recently did a one off gig w/ a new to us singer.
she submitted about 10 tunes for us to learn, w/ about 3/4 marked w/ a key.
then @ rehearsal she has us 'going up a step, down a step' basically trying to find where she's comfortable.

a pro comes w/ charts, easy peasy...



Earn while you learn
May 12th, 2017 05:03 AM   Edit   Profile  

Question: How does a chick singer change a lightbulb?
Chick singer answers: "I just hold the lightbulb and the whole world revolves around me.."

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