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FDP Forum / Performer's Corner / Frustrated!!!!

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Vero Beach FL

Tbird Greg
May 1st, 2017 06:30 AM   Edit   Profile  

In the four years I've been in Florida, I have been in at least 4 band projects. Three were start ups, the fourth was a working band. The start ups would practice for months, get a first or second gig, and then fall apart when no further jobs came along. The working band seemed to stop working and it too fizzled.

In the last few weeks, I joined a new start up that seemed promising. Did our first performance Friday night, which ended in the singer getting sloppy drunk and the drummer quitting. So this one is headed for oblivion too.

The only good thing out of all this is that I've learned a lot of new songs and upped my skills on the guitar in the process.

At 68, I suppose I should just ditch the whole band idea. But I like being in a band; it gives me a reason to keep working on my playing. So I'll just move on to the next project and accept the fact that it too will likely fizzle out sooner or later.

End of rant!


It's not just good..

...it's good enough.
May 1st, 2017 07:59 AM   Edit   Profile  

How about heading up your own project instead of joining someone else's?

Maybe contact some of the folks from the fizzled bands? That way you can pick and choose the people you enjoyed working with and you're not starting completely from scratch.

Good luck!

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May 1st, 2017 08:08 AM   Edit   Profile  

Sorry it didn't work out. I moved to Fla 3.5 years ago and haven't had the inclination to seek out a band. While I lost the passion for playing out a long time ago I do miss my old bandmates. Just got back from Michigan where I sat in with my BIL's band last Friday night. I realized it was the longest stretch since the early 70's that I didn't play out in front of people. Felt good.

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Vero Beach FL

Tbird Greg
May 1st, 2017 08:39 AM   Edit   Profile  

MLC, it just so happens that one of the failed projects was one I started myself. Initial burst of enthusiasm, a few week of rehearsals, a couple of gigs....then nothing. With no jobs on the horizon, the guys weren't interested in just practicing together. Fizzzzzzle.

This area has a number of venues for live music, but the problem seems to be that it's hard for a new band to get some traction. The places I know seem to have a regular line-up of groups they hire and don't seem interested in giving newcomers a chance. In my own case, it's probably the fact that I'm not a good salesman for the band. So I've gone with people who claim to have contacts to get jobs, but that seems to be all talk.


What It Was!

Fairly Unbalanced
May 1st, 2017 09:01 AM   Edit   Profile  

The key to success is to have enthusiastic alcoholics /following/ the band, not /in/ the band. A band can sound like a cat in a blender, but if the club runs out of beer they'll swear you're the second coming.

Will the drummer stay if Clobberhead is out? Make a move. Then all you need to do if find thirsty people who will come to an audition- and subsequent gigs. When and if etc.

(This message was last edited by Dolemite at 11:02 AM, May 1st, 2017)

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San Francisco, CA

May 1st, 2017 09:33 AM   Edit   Profile  

Our Classic 50/60's Oldies band, MID LIFE CRISIS, had a 27 year run from 1985 to 2012. Not bad for a band that thought we were doing a one-time gig fundraiser.

The key for us was that we had no competition for the kind of music we played (all covers of songs that sold millions of records in the 50/60's). Also, it was a hobby band that ended up getting paid very well because we focused on corporate gigs and were the house band at Stanford University for almost 20 years (Alumni reunions and GSB events). Never played a bar gig in all those years.

The end came when our oldies music fell out of favor with the new and much younger CEO's who started running the companies we had played for. Can't blame them for that because we all have our own taste in music.

Very thankful for all the years we had together! Fortunately for me, I was able to move into solo acoustic music and keep the fun going. Sometimes I get paid, but most times I don't. Not a problem though because it's so darn much FUN!


(This message was last edited by 6L6 at 11:34 AM, May 1st, 2017)

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Silver Spring Md

May 1st, 2017 09:39 AM   Edit   Profile  

If you can't play like these cats....

..just give it up!

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May 1st, 2017 11:44 AM   Edit   Profile  

It cracks me up that Dwight Yoakum always plays a bad guy in movies AND that's he's was willing to play a crap musician in Slingblade.

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South Florida

May 1st, 2017 04:34 PM   Edit   Profile  

It's too bad you are in Vero. I'm in West Palm and would love to form a band.

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Vero Beach FL

Tbird Greg
May 12th, 2017 02:27 PM   Edit   Profile  

I had a talk with the bassist/leader and singer/rhythm guitar and I put my cards on the table. Told them I thought we had potential to be a decent local band IF the drinking & weed smoking on the job stopped. The drummer is gone but we found a replacement.

The few rehearsals we've had since the fiasco have been more productive now that we're all saving the partying for afterwards. We'll see how it goes the next time we play out.

And, larryguitar, if you're ever up north (Vero that is), let me know. Maybe we can jam!

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I've got my own

double-cross to bear
May 12th, 2017 03:09 PM   Edit   Profile  

A leopard cannot change its spots--especially at our age.

If the personalities and proclivities are not a good fit from the get go, you are in for non-stop frustration, guaranteed. Promises of better behavior are rarely lasting.

Don't give up though. Hit the jams and open mics and keep on networking.

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Vero Beach FL

Tbird Greg
May 13th, 2017 09:26 AM   Edit   Profile  

I'm afraid you may be right, Peegoo, but I'm giving this project a second chance. I don't want to start all over again with a new group. I've been to open mics numerous times and not yet met anyone who's looking for an aging wanna-be with limited skill sets. So it looks like I am stuck with the bottom-feeders of the music world down here.

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