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FDP Forum / Performer's Corner / Saturday night gig and an uninvited drop in

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North Gnarlyington

Jul 18th, 2016 08:21 AM   Edit   Profile  

After losing a bassist to tinnitus last year and the drummer due to his job, I slowly reset with a new bassist and drummer, and even more recently, another guitar player. As a group we've only played a handful of times, but the new guitar player is a ringer/former pro, so our sound is stepped up many, many notches, and his interests mesh perfectly.

The drummer got a last minute fill in gig at a standard dive bar- we had about two weeks/ 3 practices to sort things out, and it went quite well. The addition of the other guitar player allowed us to stretch songs out, especially when people were dancing- I'd just signal "keep going" and so our three 10 song sets each lasted at least an hour. We were paid at the end as promised and everyone was happy.

However,during the last song of the second set a woman came dancing in, drink in hand, shaking, yelling, whooping, and singing along, inching her way closer to the stage, I figured, "Great, she's having fun, looks good"(for a bottled in blonde seen better days probably 38 year old)... I wondered if she was somebody's friend. But then she jumps up on stage and wants to start singing along- the song was "Jumping Jack Flash"- butts into the microphone - the only one on stage- so we're singing together. She sort of knows the words, and her voice isn't half bad, but she throws me off the lyrics..and then she's hogging the mic. All I'm noticing is how her Tanqueray and lime would make a great breath freshener, but also wondering if she's going to throw up into the monitor..or on me. The other guys are wondering "WTF?"...so we end the song as normal, I say as she heads to the bar "..and thank you Mary Clayton, you look somehow different, ha ha!" So she comes back from the bar (new drink) and over to our table and starts in on how she's a singer in a band, they're playing at the place in October, what other songs are we playing in our last set, can she join in? blah blah blah. I'm always polite with drunks, as I know how to cajole them because I can't stand aggressive ones- but I'm letting her know, very nicely, that that won't work. She persists, gets pushier. Basically, "Hey, we're all musicians , we should help each out, so you should let me get up and sing with you ..." Uh, no. I said, "This is our first gig together, so we haven't set a policy on that, but we'll discuss it at our next band meeting" as if. She kind of storms off, drink in hand. She was last seen at the bar, then apparently split with her girlfriend in tow, probably to throw up in the parking lot. Whew.

I looked her up on line, she is in a band, doing GnR covers and the like, not a bad voice- at least in the youtubes from 2009, when she looked much better-, but all I can think of is how miserable the poor guys are that have to have her as their front person/diva.

(This message was last edited by professor at 10:26 AM, Jul 18th, 2016)

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Jul 18th, 2016 11:00 AM   Edit   Profile  

"Mondo Meat & the Dorky Boys" - This is the nickname coined for a band led by an alpha female back in the 80's in the circuit we played.

Perhaps "Ms. Uninvited" fronts a similar band, replete with emasculated backing musicians (unless she's having an affair with one of them that is)?

Guitar Fool
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Sunshine State

Just a pawn in someone else's game
Jul 18th, 2016 12:34 PM   Edit   Profile  

actually quite rude of her all things considered..

there is a right and a wrong way to barge in on someone else's gig..

the right way is to be invited..


San Clemente, CA

Happy Sunsets, tahitijack
Jul 18th, 2016 12:39 PM   Edit   Profile  

Posts like this remind me of the benefits of being in an instrumental band. Very few can play songs from our set list if the were to even try we'd go to more obscure songs.

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Philly, B-3 Capital

don't dream it be it
Jul 18th, 2016 01:13 PM   Edit   Profile  

"Posts like this remind me of the benefits of being in an instrumental band"

we're a mostly instrumental band as well.
a few weeks ago on when on a break, someone pointed out that a drunk chick had pulled the mic off my amp mic stand and wanted to sing.

I ran over and ripped it out of her hand before she got started and she apologized saying she only wanted to sing one tune.

the drummer and I told her to leave the bar, she began apologizing again, and we told her to split before we had her physically removed.

no time for morons....

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Eat. Sleep. Guitar.

Jul 18th, 2016 02:59 PM   Edit   Profile  

Anytime that happens, hand the gate crasher a placemat, point at Tuesday on the bar's calendar, and say, "Today's Saturday. Open mic night is Tuesdays."


What It Was!

cross-dressing for Rodan
Jul 18th, 2016 07:42 PM   Edit   Profile  

"Posts like this remind me of the benefits of being in an instrumental band."

Extra insurance: be in an instrumental band that tunes to Eb - harmonica-proof!

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American Patriot

I'm on guard these days.
Jul 18th, 2016 07:53 PM   Edit   Profile  

I've seen some horror stories with people who set in.

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Eat. Sleep. Guitar.

Jul 18th, 2016 09:06 PM   Edit   Profile  

Dolemite--since when has any harmonica player cared about what key the tune is?

Hee hee

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North Gnarlyington

Jul 19th, 2016 06:18 AM   Edit   Profile  

yes, but sometimes they come


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It's not just good..

...it's good enough.
Jul 19th, 2016 06:44 AM   Edit   Profile  

"Anytime that happens, hand the gate crasher a placemat, point at Tuesday on the bar's calendar, and say, "Today's Saturday. Open mic night is Tuesdays.""

This is exactly the tact I've taken, most recently.
I'll point folks to several weekly open mic/jam venues that they could check out, but that's not what we do during our regular gigs.

"the right way is to be invited.."


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Jul 19th, 2016 07:28 AM   Edit   Profile  

Just because one was born with talent, cultivated it into an organized money making venture does not mean they should deny the inebriated unfortunates from their spontaneous moment in the sun. Just look at their Facebook profile and see the number of friends they have. They're celebrities, dammit. And the liklihood is they've logged many hours doing karaoke and weren't denied and treated so rudely. When the moment strikes and they demand it, you're on call to be THEIR band.

Juice Nichols
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Panama City, FL

I'm just a dude, playing a dude...
Jul 19th, 2016 09:46 AM   Edit   Profile  

We've invited people on stage to sing a song on occasion when asked. My philosophy is if they want to make an ass out of themselves have at it. The object is for the audience to have fun, and if you let someone get up there every once in a while it seems to more than pay off in the tip jar. We've gotten some pretty large tips from husbands/boy friends of the people we let up.

The people we let actually play an instrument are few and far between though. Almost everyone is someone we know and is a local pro. The one exception was an Army soldier that was at one of our gigs. He talked to us during the break and told us he was a drummer in the Army band at one of the bases near by. We got him up to play a song with us and he turned out to be a monster player. We jokingly told our drummer that he was fired!



Earn while you learn
Jul 27th, 2016 06:33 AM   Edit   Profile  

Sitting in:
I went to a blues-jam two weeks ago with my sax in tow. I asked the leader of the house band if I could play (hey, it's a blues jam) and he said that he would call me up during the next set. He was cordial.

He ended up calling me up "hey sax-man" to play on the last two songs of that set. The band seemed to like what I did and the band leader asked me to stay and play the whole next set (last set of the afternoon), but I decided to put my horn in the case and be part of the audience.

I think that the bandleader had me play on the last two tunes to see how I did (which was probably a good idea on his part).

I would never "step on the band's toes" and force myself onstage.....

My classical ensemble


Willoughby, OH , USA

I'm arrogant and a moron
Jul 27th, 2016 11:28 AM   Edit   Profile  

Very rude!
I sit in with a few friends, but I always wait to be asked and then bail out, on my own after three songs, unless asked to stay. She may have talent but she's not very professional.



Jul 27th, 2016 03:33 PM   Edit   Profile  

I've used the lines

"Sorry we're auditioning" for there or someone is there to listen so no sit=in's


"The bar owner hired us to play our stuff and said no sit ins"


"Yeah stick around to our last 2 songs" they've usually gotten so drunk by then they left.

Vic Vega


Deflating Balls Since 1969
Jul 27th, 2016 08:53 PM   Edit   Profile  

Why come up with a line? A simipile, "We don't allow people to sit in. Ever."

Problem solved.

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The Low Brow Kid
Jul 27th, 2016 09:05 PM   Edit   Profile  

So 38 years old is old??
you ain't seen nothing yet

FDP Data Goon

When I sin

I sin real good
Jul 28th, 2016 06:19 AM   Edit   Profile  

^just wait until the experience of a female midlife crisis hits.

They're real and they're brutal.

Pray you're single if you consider dating women around then!

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