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FDP Forum / Sing, Sing, Sing! - Vocalist's Forum / Finally throwing in the towel

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Basking Ridge, NJ,

Nov 15th, 2011 07:24 AM   Edit   Profile  

I admit that for many years, I sang rather badly. Couldn't stay on pitch to save my life. I learned a lot about singing by performing in a men's acapella chorus for several years. I maintained pitch fairly well when I had someone singing the same notes right near me. But 'solo', I went flat. I worked on breath support and tone placement, used training CD's and even personal lessons. But singing in my band and the chorus, I sounded mediocre at best. Just don't have good tonal qualities in my singing voice. So I've decided to just 'shut up and play the guitar' and leave the singing to real singers. A bit of a disappointment, for sure, but I just don't want to sing in front of an audience knowing that I really don't sound very good. Some folks just can't learn to sing - me and Mr Dylan are two of them.

(This message was last edited by greg1948 at 07:26 AM, Nov 15th, 2011)



hmm Hairy Eyeball not just for breakfast
Nov 16th, 2011 07:26 PM   Edit   Profile  

greg I have heard you sing and you are being too hard on yourself. In a bar no one is grading you. Its about energy and connecting with the audience-both of which you do in spades

dont give up the mic brother!

If you want to get a lead singer to do most of the tunes and you do backing and sing the occasional lead that you feel comfortable doing i would suggest that.

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better living

through chemistry!
Nov 16th, 2011 07:41 PM   Edit   Profile  

My wife is an AMAZING singer, and I can see an audience get bored with me, when we share a gig.

But, I need to do a good job on harmonies and give her the backup (rest) she will need from time to time. Motivates me to stay in it.

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Basking Ridge, NJ,

Nov 17th, 2011 07:50 AM   Edit   Profile  

Gman, thanks for the encouragement. That's exactly what I don't get from my bandmates. We do have three good singers. What I get from them is "you can't sing" or "don't worry about singing, just play the guitar". And snickering when I do hit a bum note. Why would I want to bother? Ironically, I'm the founder of this band! I'll just save my singing for Clamfest.


Seacoast of NH

Dec 19th, 2011 11:05 AM   Edit   Profile  


I'm kind of in a similar situation. Except that for me, although I carry a tune pretty well, I am making a decision, after many years, to just do what I love more than anything - to play rhythm guitar and a background vocal now and then. No more front and center for me and I couldn't be happier! Just my two cents.

Good luck!

Jody in NH

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Basking Ridge, NJ,

Dec 20th, 2011 07:23 AM   Edit   Profile  

I've rethought my decision to abandon singing. I recorded two versions of "Little Sister" and played them for the wife. First version was with my 'normal' singing voice. She thought it was pretty good. Take two was in a gruff, whiskey-blues tone. She heard that and said "You've finally found YOUR voice."

So I'm going to work on that style of singing and see how that goes. The downside it that singing like that is very stressful on the vocal cords. But for a handful of songs that I would likely do, it shouldn't be too much.



hmm Hairy Eyeball not just for breakfast
Dec 31st, 2011 12:38 PM   Edit   Profile  

your voice is a series of muscles and with practice it will get easier.

I would say that what you consider your normal voice is really "head voice" that you have built the strength up over the years and your new voice is where you are really using your throat and diaphram.

You have a very good ear and are always in tune so your "new" voice will serve you well. Sing in the car daily to build it up and rest when you are tired or you may do some damage.

welcome back to the mic greg!


usa/ Northwest IN

You say you`re leavin,I`ll help you pack
Dec 31st, 2011 08:05 PM   Edit   Profile  

Be carefull with the gruff, whiskey/blues voice tone, it can blow out your voice for the rest of the nite very easily if you aren`t carefull!! ( in spite of how much fun it is at the moment) LOL

BBQ Gord


Didn't chew kill my bruvah?
Feb 1st, 2012 02:47 PM   Edit   Profile  

Remember, the audience isn't made up entirely of Music teachers! We're all our own harshest critics. (Well let's hope there are none harsher!)



May 8th, 2012 06:33 PM   Edit   Profile  

I don't consider myself a great singer by any stretch. However, I am a very good conveyor of songs. I have taught myself to sing in tune. I think I fall into the Bob Dylan camp. But I am very comfortable with my voice. I have a lot of energy and that brings the audience in. Remember, there are lots of different flavors in the world. I am sure some folks will enjoy yours.

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Basking Ridge, NJ,

May 9th, 2012 06:43 AM   Edit   Profile  

I have been singing more - and better - lately. I have learned to relax my throat and facial muscles and just try to convey, as mr51 said. Nobody will likely tell me I'm a great singer, but as long as they're not covering their ears or cringing, I'll keep at it.


I'm not an expert

... but I play one on the internet!
Jul 11th, 2012 01:57 PM   Edit   Profile  

I can relate, but from the opposite extreme. I think I can't hit pitch every time, sometimes my voice feels shaky, and I generally don't like the timbre of my voice.

But, I've been coming out of my shell a bit, and some very respected musician friends are nothing but encouraging.

I would like to think that if I really did stink, they'd tell me that.

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